*calories 1200-1500 per day * weight loss: 9.5 pounds
Greetings!
In this journey, we often are told “you are what you eat”, that is true, but it is also true that we ARE what we think–or we become what we think.
I heard a very sharp, interesting and engaging woman speak last weekend, I hung on every word she had to say, she commanded the stage–very dynamic.
ONE thing that she did also stood out to me, but in a very negative way. She called herself “chubby” and made the point twice that she was overweight and had ‘let herself go a bit’.
First off, I didn’t think she was chubby. She was well dressed and covered up any figure flaws beautifully–it wasn’t until SHE pointed it out that I took inventory of those flaws, almost subconsciously as though to agree with her and validate what she was saying?!
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“Life richly rewards action and ruthlessly punishes inaction!”
So, first rule, DON’T draw attention to your pounds.
You don’t need to! If you are morbidly obese–
everyone saw it already before you told them, and, if you are just a bit overweight why point it out? Either way, it isn’t a point worthy of conversation and it shouldn’t be more of an issue than what you have to say!
Another thought along this line, is if we call ourselves “fat” or “chubby” and declare it publicly, it is my opinion that the ONLY reason we do that is to somehow excuse it and give ourselves a permission slip or pass for the next unhealthy action we decide to do!
If you tell the room, your coworkers, your family, or even yourself, that you are “chubby” and you laugh about it, then when they see you eating a banana split later, it’s OK, right?! But, if you stood up there all dynamic, vibrant and exuding confidence–they just might expect more healthful choices from you? Or most importantly, YOU might expect them from yourself!?!
Get my point?
One scenario gives you a license to eat “chubby” foods, the other holds you accountable to higher standards.
Are you setting yourself up for mediocrity or magnificence?!Just to be on the safe side, choose your words as carefully as you choose your foods!
Sincerely,
Julia Harvey
Weight Loss by Julia
When I started blogging here I admitted it wasn’t only weight loss as a goal for this year that I wanted to achieve, but also to become more positive with my self-esteem. If I never lose another pound but can quit berating myself and believing in negativism, then that might just suffice for my goals accomplished this New Year.
January 27th, 2006 at 5:02 am
(………it is ….. true that we ARE what we think–or we become what we think. ………
………. if we call ourselves “fat” or “chubby” and declare it publicly, it is my opinion that the ONLY reason we do that is to somehow excuse it and give ourselves a permission slip or pass for the next unhealthy action we decide to do! …………
…….., then when they see you eating a banana split later, it’s OK, right?!
But, if you stood up there all dynamic, vibrant and exuding confidence–they just might expect more healthful choices from you?………
Or most importantly, YOU might expect them from yourself!?! ……….)
I’ve seen the picture you post on Grace….it is a beautiful woman with an absolutely gorgeous smile!!!
I’ve also seen a picture of your dh….he is a handsome man….but I have to bet there are a few lines, crow’s feet and a bit less hair than when you married him, also….
I know a abit about the lifestyle you 2 have going, and I was only there for a short time….I understand the stress that being a fulltime caregiver gives.
Weight may add some lines but just plain having birthdays add some….. Your picture -assuming it ihas not been retouched– is of a beautiful lady… those advertisements…we don’t know how many times they have been touched up and the professional hair and make-up that the talking spokesman has could make King Kong look good.
[I say this to myself, also…..] Someone special is reading this, and that someone is exactly where God wants them at this time.. I say that because IF you were a slim and trim 155 pound woman, those of us that need to lose weight would think you couldn’t possibly understand where we come from…..the ministry/work you are doing wouldn’t be as effective…and the blog would be a make-believe one….. You are going to get to a healthy weight, but you may have to struggle along with us, and that makes it more helpful and real to everyone.
When the one you loves hurts deeply, come visiting…let us know….we will tell you the truth…You are beautiful, and you are doing a great job becoming healthy!!!!!
January 27th, 2006 at 5:07 am
Angelic, You made me cry–I think happy, comforting tears. I so much apprciate your friendship. Next time I am made to feel worthless, I will recall that I am a valuable asset to others. Sincere thanks. You helped.
January 27th, 2006 at 3:39 pm
You are not only valuable….at times you become invaluable when one of us out here have no one else to turn to at that moment. You have been that to me.
in•val•u•a•ble
Pronunciation: (in-val’yOO-u-bul), [key]
—adj.
beyond calculable or appraisable value; of inestimable worth; priceless
Priceless!
January 27th, 2006 at 3:41 pm
Thanks, Toni! That is worth printing out and putting on my refrigerator.